The generation of children left in misery by cotton wool parenting
Posted by at Tuesday, March 01, 2011 1:10 PM
Motherly love 'breeds confidence'
Babies whose mothers shower them with affection are better at coping with stress when they get older, researchers say.
Posted by at Tuesday, July 27, 2010 8:37 AM
Neurotic? No, I'm just hypersensitive: How one in five is us are overwhelmed by the stresses of modern living
I wonder how much this behaviour prompts ASD labelling!
Posted by at Monday, July 12, 2010 9:17 AM
The family that bakes together …
Posted by at Sunday, June 13, 2010 9:41 AM
'Working mothers are to blame if their children misbehave' says a leading psychologist
Posted by at Sunday, May 23, 2010 11:19 AM
Toddlers + Toilet Roll = Trouble
You know that cute little Andrex puppy, the one that pulls the toilet paper off the roll and drags it around the house. Well it has nothing on a toilet training toddler!
As soon as they have worked out how to get the toilet roll off the holder you've had it. The toilet roll will be wrapped around the house and then flushed down the toilet before you realise what's happening. The way I found to get around this is to use a chunky old wooden toilet roll holder that has a knob on one end that screws into the wooden dowel the loo roll sits on. This holds it all in place and the little darlings can't figure out how to get the loo roll off the holder (unless they spot you replacing the roll!)
The only problem with this design of holder is that they can spin the toilet roll round, and the faster they spin it, the faster the toilet paper gathers in a pile on the floor. So what do you do?
Squash the loo roll flat before you put it on the holder. That way when they try to spin the roll, it stops after half a turn, leaving them with a measly 1 piece of paper. They soon lose interest!
Posted by at Tuesday, February 09, 2010 5:08 PM
Getting Gloss Paint Off Children
When my eldest son first came into contact with gloss paint I was panicking. How do you get gloss paint off a toddler? I mean you can't use white spirit, and I certainly wasn't going to scrub it off. His Dad was still emotionally suffering 30 years after his experience with gloss paint and his mother with a scrubbing brush! So what did I do?.. I left it. I waited until it eventually peeled off on it's own.
By the time my fourth toddler came into contact with gloss paint I was somewhat more blase about it, except that she pulled the tin off a shelf and over her entire head and body. Definitely not one to leave to peel off! So what did I do?..
I stripped her off, stuck her in the bath tub and massaged almond oil into the gloss paint. I figured that as gloss paint is oil based, massaging it into the paint would make the paint thinner and easier to remove.
I then massaged in shower gel, figuring that the soap in the gel would help break down the oil. Then I rinsed off the shower gel and the oil and gloss paint came off with it.
So there you have it, to get gloss paint off, massage in oil, massage in soap and wash off!
Posted by at Saturday, April 18, 2009 5:30 AM
The Tidy Up Ladder
What is it with kids? Why don't they like to keep things neat?
You and I both know it's got to be better to know where that hairbrush is, or that new DS game, or that overdue library book! But kids don't get it, kids don't see why their rooms should be tidy. I understand that, I really do, I hate tidying up - it's boring! There are things that I would much rather do than tidy, and so, my house is in a permanent state of organised clutter. To some it looks messy, but I know where just about everything in my house is.
Except for the missing hairbrush, a new DS game and that overdue library book!
So, just how do you get your kids to tidy? Do you bribe them, threaten them, take away all their stuff, lock them in their rooms until it's done? 8| Or do you try all of those with no success until one day you have an epiphany. Supernanny meets the Queens of Clean! Oh yes - I thought up the TidyUp Ladder and it worked - even better, it still works.
4 children, 3 bedrooms, one and a half hours and the rooms were spotless! You see the kids don't see the point in tidying, they don't understand the importance in dusting and vacuuming but they do understand races and they do understand sweets - okay, sweet bribery may not be everybodies cup of tea but I rationalise it by calling it a reward for a job well done.
To get the tidy up ladder to work you will need a timer (one that does 5 and 10 minutes), a stack of cards (I used the back of old business cards), blue tack, a tv showing short cartoons, a bowl of sweets and a tube of sweets (or other reward) - notice the emphasis on sweets here !!!! - Oh and you will also need a load of enthusiasm!
The idea behind the TidyUp ladder is that on each card you write something that needs tidying up and stick them up the wall (using the blue tack) to form a 'ladder'. At the top of each ladder you have a card with the childs name and their reward. They are timed to complete each stage of the ladder before the timer goes, if they complete the stage in time they get a sweetie, if they don't I get the sweetie. ;-) However, you always give them enough time to complete the stage! When they finish all the stages they get their reward.
The TV is another useful tactic - the sooner they finish that bit of tidying the sooner they get to see more of the show! This works really well with my children as they take it in turns to complete a cleaning stage. Doing it this way means that I only have one or two children upstairs at any one time and they are much less likely to interfere with each other and get distracted from the cleaning.
So, why does the TidyUp Ladder work? Quite simply, the children get rewarded for spending a few minutes playing a game! They like it. Having their Momma brimming with enthusism saying "come on, come on. You can do it. Get all the cuddlies on the bed before the timer goes" and then they get a sweet (or whatever) for beating the timer - that's cool!
Admittedly, sweets aren't everybodies cup of tea for reward incentives, and I know that my younger daughters would happily fill a card with stickers and have a bowl of strawberries as a reward, my son would happily earn extra computer time, but my 11 (going on 25) year old daughter... Sigh... she's the tricky one, but boy does she have a sweet tooth and it's easier making sure they're all earning the same rewards - less scope for "it's not fair" arguments.
Ways to make the TidyUp ladder work for you. Keep cleaning sessions short - no more than 5 minutes if possible - kids get bored easily, make sure they have equal time on and off - if they tidy for 5 minutes let them watch their cartoon for 5 minutes (perfect time for the next child to do their bit!). Keep instructions clear, simple and concise (put dirty clothes in basket, tidy under table, etc.). Limit the number of cards you write out (5 for younger children, I have 12 for the older ones).
Remember - Rome wasn't built in a day and if your kid's room is a complete tip then it won't be tidied in an hour or so. Break it up into 2 or 3 tidy sessions, more if necessary, by the end of the weekend it should be done! Then they can trash it during the week and do it all again the next weekend!
Posted by at Saturday, March 07, 2009 5:10 PM